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How Do I Get a Cat to Like Me?

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An interactive toy is based on a fishing pole design. There are many available that have different types of toy targets at the end so try to match the toy with the cat’s personality. For example, if you’re dealing with a very timid cat, stick to a toy that has a smaller toy at the end.

To trigger the cat’s interest, move the toy away or across the cat’s visual field. Never dangle the toy right in front of his face. Let him have the time and space to plan his move. When you move the toy like prey, the natural predator in the cat will take over.

Allow the cat to have several successful captures so the game becomes rewarding and not frustrating. Play with the cat at least a couple of times a day. Give the cat a treat after playtime or time the play session before a meal so you can offer a food reward. That way, the might hunter gets to enjoy the feast after capturing his prey.

When dealing with a cat who isn’t ready to be petted or get too close to you, interactive playtime is a great way to share the space and leave the cat feeling more confident about trusting you.

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Handle Negative Reactions the Right Way

If the cat hisses, growls, swats, or even bites, it’s an indication that he feels threatened. If any of this happens, it’s probably because you may have moved too fast or gotten too close. A negative reaction is a clear sign the cat isn’t ready to take the next step. All-too-often, well-meaning people don’t pay attention to early warning body language signs from the cat. If you want to build trust and develop a relationship, pay attention to the cat’s body language and know when to back off before it gets to the point where the cat feels the only option left is to show aggression.

Here are a few body language signs that indicate the cat wants you to back off: